Mother's Day is a more complex holiday than our brunch and flower-filled culture gives it credit for. I love the idea of celebrating motherhood. But if you peel back the curtain on this day of card-giving and perfume, there is quite literally blood, sweat, and tears.
It is a day to celebrate the best of humanity. The love of mother and child. The blessings of family. And indeed those are all amazing reasons to celebrate.
But there is so much more.
My own mother is a tiny powerhouse of resilience, faith and generosity. She is the most determined and hard-working person I have ever met. And looking back on my childhood, I recognize so many ways that she tried to bring magic, and fun into our lives. We lived in a small, rural mountain town, and resources and amenities were definitely limited. She would sit down at her sewing machine and make beautiful costumes, dolls and other clever things for my sister and I to play with. She made birthdays something to remember, she played piano and...
It's been a while since I posted any career-related items, and this one has been sitting with me for a while. As I work with my clients, and push them to explore their potential in work and in life, there is one thing that stands out as both a 'no brainer', and huge red flag for me. I don't bump into this often, but I still feel that it's worth addressing.
For real! I'm not kidding.
For all of the career advice, coaching and encouragement I can provide, nothing can take the place of a front and center commitment, and understanding that you still have to DO THE WORK!
Yes. I know you are special.
Yes, I agree that you are a unique, and truly gifted person that is deserving of love, respect and success!
However, no amount of beauty, poise, wit or charm will nullify the impression laziness creates. (And yes, not working, not producing to the level of your innate capabilities is being lazy.)
Productivity is where the rubber meets the road. The best laid plans in the world won't see the light of day, unless you are productive, that is EFFECTIVELY using your time to get to your goals.
However, this is where our culture has gotten it wrong, and where you have likely found yourself victim to the trap of the cult of 'busy'.
I found myself in this very situation, when after over 10 years in high pressure politics, and corner office pressure (read: intense days and nights of work with no end in sight), I realized that I was judging my productivity on how full or sparse my Outlook calendar was on any given day.
If it wasn't full, I felt like a failure.
If it was full, I felt panic that I couldn't follow-up on everything that the full schedule necessitated.
A catch 22 to be sure! And a no- win situation for the most productive among us.
I was literally working my ass...
Today I'm going to dive into the second critical High Performance concept, and that is ENERGY!
I have to admit, this one is my Achilles heel. I have NEVER been a high-energy person, in fact, quite the opposite. As a kid I was asleep before the car pulled out of the driveway, I struggled to stay awake in school, and I typically required lots of pressure from my friends to get up and go out! I know, kind of a downer, but I truly couldn't help it!
In hindsight, I know that I was likely suffering from Lymes, even way back then, I just didn’t know it. But my half-empty battery has been a struggle of mine for most of my life. I was always truly jealous of people that seemed to overflow with an abundance of energy. I couldn't imagine what that felt like, and my low energy always felt like an anchor holding me down.
That’s why I was so grateful to find High Performance coaching, and learn specific strategies to help me navigate my low-energy self. There are indeed ways...
"High Performance Living is the ongoing feeling of full engagement, joy and confidence that comes from consistently living your best self." Brendon Burchard
Who doesn’t want more engagement, joy and confidence in their lives? I'm guessing we all could use a lot more of all three!
And not just bursts of these highly desirable states, but an 'ongoing feeling', or a state of living that persists over time. That is definitely something we would all love to achieve!
If someone asks you, "How are you?"; how do you typically respond?
Are you “fine”,? Are you “good”? Or maybe you are “hanging in there”?
What if I were to ask you to describe the last time you felt 'joy'? Could you recall a specific moment? Would it bring back a flood of memories of all those times you felt joy?
Or, would you be stumped? Would you struggle to respond to the question?
If trying to recall when you last felt 'joy' felt like you were digging around your...
Sometimes things don't work out despite all of our best efforts. We plan, we prepare, we focus, and we do everything possible to lay a solid foundation for a successful outcome.
And then it doesn't work out. Or it doesn't happen at all.
And yes, it's painful. Yes. It's a bummer.
But it's also ok.
When things we strive for don't manifest into a real outcome, it's all part of a bigger foundation. A bigger achievement. A better outcome.
I'm not saying that 'things work out for the best', because frankly, I'm not sure I buy that.
However, I do believe that passion, persistence and commitment applied towards a goal (whether achieved or not), builds healthy habits and skills that will serve us well no matter what.
If it doesn't work out, there is another thing that will.
And when you find the right thing, you will be ready.
You will have done the planning.
You will be prepared.
You will be focused and you will already have your foundation.
Closed doors just get us moving towards the ones...
It's easy to forget what a miraculous gift we have in this thing called life. We are alive, we are breathing, we have options, we have opportunities.
Yes, we also have challenges and hardship.
We can't control what others do to us, or what obstacles we may face. But we can control how we deal with them. We can control our mindset, our resilience, our faith in our ability to overcome even the most challenging of circumstances.
We've all been given the same gift. We don't all experience the human condition in the same way. Some of us are more fortunate than others. Some of us are lucky enough to start our lives in a place where we don't have to worry about food, shelter, water, safety. Others of us will struggle to survive from the moment we are born.
For those who have the luxury of being able to function past the level of sheer survival, we face other...
The New Year brings the gift of choice. How fortunate are we to be able to prioritize, to plan, to set goals? Your choices depend on your mindset. Is the world a place of abundance and possibility? Or is it a place of scarcity and limitation? Your choices depend on your beliefs.
Your outcomes depend on the combination of your beliefs and your choices. It's as simple and as complicated as that.
May you choose to see the best in yourself this year, and do everything in your power to ensure the world gets to see your best self as well.
May you choose to be kind, and when given the chance, show compassion and humility.
May you choose to have faith, in yourself, in your fellow man, and in a purpose greater than all of us.
May you choose to be brave, and know that everything works out. Even if it doesn't!
May you choose to be resilient, and persevere in all things, even when all odds seem against you. Be stubborn in your determination, and consistent in...
With the New Year staring us down like a loaded gun, I'm personally feeling that all-too familiar pressure to figure out/or resolve how to do better in the upcoming new year.
I have been a perennial New Year's resolution maker. I have also been a consistent Spring Break quitter, (meaning I'm lucky if my resolution carries me as far as the melting snow). I'm a true believer in the power of taking stock, and revisiting what you have going on in your life, so that you can plan and make positive changes to better support your goals.
That being said, there is something trite and frankly ineffective about merely resolving to do better in a new year. Unless we have real skin in the game of improving and bettering ourselves, we lose our motivation and give up on our resolutions more quickly than we care to admit.
I would imagine there are any number of things about 2016 that have left you feeling frustrated,...
There is nothing so easily remade as the definitions of ourselves. - Dinaw Mengetsu
“People can’t change”
“You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”
“You can’t change who you really are”
You’ve probably heard these more than once. But is this really true?
Are you really the same person you were 5 years ago? Do you have the same challenges, dreams and ambitions that you did last year?
How about the way you approach life in general? Do you think the 20 year-old ‘you’ would be congruous with the current ‘you’?
Likely you have changed. The world has a way of carving new definition into us, much like water slowly (or at times dramatically) changing the face of stone. Slow currents, flash floods and light drizzle all change their landscapes, just at different tempos and in different shapes. For us, it may be burnout from our job, a divorce, a health crisis, boredom, or pretty much any aspect of the...
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